Self-Assessment
Recognizing Shame in Presentation
Three brief presentations. For each, identify which type of shame is most likely operating and how it is showing up in the room, then draft what you would actually say. Shame is rarely named by the client. If you are waiting to hear the word, you will miss it.
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Quick Reference
Internalized shame"I am broken." A core belief about the self as sexually defective.
Performance shame"I failed." Triggered by perceived inadequacy, usually following a specific experience.
Religious shameConflict between sexual experience and deeply held religious values.
Minority stress-related shameExternal stigma directed at identity or desire, absorbed and turned inward.
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On the Fourth Type
Minority stress-related shame appears as an option throughout but is not the answer to any of the three. It differs from the others in one useful way: the client's account of what is wrong with them often matches, almost word for word, something that was said to them or about them. Where internalized shame usually cannot be traced to a source, this can, and asking where they first heard it is frequently productive.